Is it fair to demand silence when you go to bed?

anarres · 31-03-2003, 15:26

Some more facts:

When I said he was abnormal, I was refering to the level of noise that he finds acceptable (i.e. NONE).

I own the house.

Lodger A was the last person to move in, he may not have known we are both night owls, but at the time he made no requests about requiring total silence when he goes to bed.

Regarding 'House' rules, we have very few, except that you clean up after yourself and respect the other people living there. This is OK for 95% of situations, but I am not going to make a million and one rules about every little thing in advance, just on the offchance they come up.

Regarding 'Respecting Boundaries', I suppose it all comes down to what is a reasonable boundary. Is it reasonable for Lodger A to say his boundary is total silence after 11pm? Is he respecting our boundaries by asking us to significantly change our lives to meet his (unusual) requirements?

If it isn't obvious, I am deciding whether or not to ask him to leave.

31-03-2003, 15:26	#11
anarres anarchist butcher Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: United States of Whatever. Posts: 4,677	Some more facts: When I said he was abnormal, I was refering to the level of noise that he finds acceptable (i.e. NONE). I own the house. Lodger A was the last person to move in, he may not have known we are both night owls, but at the time he made no requests about requiring total silence when he goes to bed. Regarding 'House' rules, we have very few, except that you clean up after yourself and respect the other people living there. This is OK for 95% of situations, but I am not going to make a million and one rules about every little thing in advance, just on the offchance they come up. Regarding 'Respecting Boundaries', I suppose it all comes down to what is a reasonable boundary. Is it reasonable for Lodger A to say his boundary is total silence after 11pm? Is he respecting our boundaries by asking us to significantly change our lives to meet his (unusual) requirements? If it isn't obvious, I am deciding whether or not to ask him to leave. __________________ <b>Calculate the probability of culture flips: Flip Calc</b>